Love: Don't you just hate it?

I'm coming to realize that there may not be a such thing as right and wrong when it comes to affairs of the heart. When you think about it, love makes more sense when you see it as something that either feels right or doesn't. Often times we hear stories from friends about their heartaches and we often say, "You a damn fool," or "I would have left a long time ago." Yet, when we walk in their shoes and go through something similar, we then realize that love isn't always logical.

I remember writing my novel For The Love Of The Trigger and as I created the love affair between the two main characters Rucker and Kai, I wanted to make their relationship flawed. Why? Because if you can show me the perfect relationship, I'll show you a lie. Rucker was a selfish man who seemingly ruined Kai's life. His hustling landed him in jail and he left her pregnant and with a habit. " When I caught my first case, she caught it with me. When I started to get high on my own supply, she became a crack fiend with me." Though she struggled, Kai kicked her habit and survived, but when she finally got her head above water, Rucker came back into her life.

Now I can only imagine what her friends had to say when she told them that she was allowing him into her home. On the outside looking in, she may have looked a damn fool but for whatever reason, it just felt right to her.

Now if you want to know how it turns out for Rucker and Kai, you'll have to read the book, but the point I'm making is that sometimes you just have to go with what feels right. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you should be naive, just don't try to apply rules to love because it doesn't have any. If your significant other cheats on you, don't leave them simply because you're afraid you'll look like a fool if you don't. If you're digging someone, but they may not meet your "standards," don't turn them away because your friends may feel that he or she isn't "on your level."

Sometimes decisions that we make in relations will defy logic, but if it feels right and you're not compromising yourself, give it a chance.