Even Cavemen evolve...

Lets face it, as times change so must we. In order to survive, one must adapt to their surroundings and a big part of that is changing how you think. Since the beginning of the family structure, men and women had defined roles. Often times it was the man's responsibility to hunt/work and the woman's job to tend to the kids and the home.

This paradigm was slowly redefined during World War Two when women started to take on the once "male dominated" jobs while the soldiers were away fighting. Another reason is Capitalism which forced families to have two incomes to maintain their lifestyles.

Fast forward to 2011 where two incomes is damn near a necessity and the WOMAN is often the bread winner. Now having said that, it puzzles me how some men feel they can still be "The head of the household," yet aren't bringing anything into the household. Can you really ask a woman, "Why the hell isn't the house cleaned and my food on the table?" when she works a full-time job just like you? Can you ask her to be a real woman, when you're not being a real man? The old standard was based upon the fact that the man solely took on the responsibility of being the provider. Now how can you do that if you're unemployed and aren't looking for a job. How is this possible if you don't want to further your education because then you can't answer the phone in class when Jay-Z or Weezy call to offer you a contract?

Here's the reality: being "the head and not the tail" isn't a birthright, it's earned. If you feel that you're woman should stay at home and tend to her "duties," you should one, establish that she's willing to do that when you first get together (you can't change the rules in the ninth inning) and two, make sure your environment is financially stable for her to do so. If any one of these scenarios can't be agreed upon, then fellas, you need to tuck your tail between your legs and humble yourselves to reality. No woman is going to let her child/children go without just to feed your ego.

Real woman know their responsibilities and guess what? So do real men. If she's willing to rush home from a hard days work and cook and clean and do laundry and bathe the kids and write out the checks for the bills and all the "other" things you expect, acknowledge her efforts, thank her instead of saying, "Well that's what you're supposed to do."

Before we start making demands, lets be the man.