I can imagine the thoughts that went through your head after you read the title. Some of you had a “WTF?” moment, while most of you quickly disregarded the concept all together. The notion that, "the evil that men do," doesn't derive from behind their zipper is hard to grasp for most. But before you think I’m crazy, give me the opportunity to dispel this misconception about us men.
The best place to start would be with the reasoning behind why most people (especially woman,) believe that we think with our buddy; the fact that sex, either discreetly or blatantly, is the center of our universe. I would be the first man to admit that we are sexual monsters. There’s no discounting that most of the things we do, from the cars we buy, to the clothes we wear, to how we take care of our bodies, is all to catch the eye of that beautiful, bow-legged mommy in the Jimmy Choo stilettos. And once we do catch their eyes, you can bet the farm that we’ll want to engage in some sinful deeds as soon as possible. Now I’m not going to touch on what tends to happen once the deed is done, that’s a different article. What I will touch on though, is the fact that most believe that all of the aforementioned actions were due in part to the fact that we’re led solely by our “member.” But lets think about that for a second. If were we led by our joint, we could repeatedly have sex with the same woman and would be totally satisfied by it; sex is sex. That galactic "explosion" that we work so hard to achieve is unbiased; it doesn't see color, or weight or beauty. We wouldn't have to chase behind others because what we have would be sufficient. Having said that, its safe to assume that there must be something else driving our need to conquer every single woman that tickles our fancy and that “something else” is our ego. The ego is defined as, “a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.” Obviously we could go deeper into what exactly the ego is, but in the simplest terms, it is a thought process in which we define ourselves and set ourselves a part from others. If you really think about it, the male ego is responsible for the rise and fall of empires, the most recent stock market crash and the increased profitability of male enhancers. Lets keep it a buck: We always want more!
As with any thought process, it can be distorted by outside influences. I can remember growing up in Brooklyn and listening to the OG’s talking smack as they played Dominos. The conversation was usually about women, more specifically, how much loving they were getting from those women. Unfortunately, a lot of men learn at an early age that they should define their manhood by how many notches they have on their belt. You are often considered “the man” if you’re sleeping with a lot of women and when other men give you props for that, guess what? You’re going to sleep with more women. And since John is getting the props that Harry wants, Harry is going to start sleeping with as many women as possible as well. When you’re younger, trying to achieve this title got you in a lot of trouble. That cocktail of young stupidity and raging hormones always lead to a slew of fights, father’s trying to kill you and most of the broken hearted love songs you hear on the radio now. You would think that as you get older, things would improve and it would if we were thinking with our pecker. Men tend to get worse as we get older because as we lose our prowess our ego gets more involved. So not only do we have to prove to others we “still got it,” we now have to prove it to ourselves.
Men are natural hunters and we enjoy the spoils of our endeavors. That’s why even today, we still hunt for game and not for survival. These days, instead
of spears, clubs and rocks being our preferred weapons of choice, we use jewelry, cars and our sexual prowess to conquer our prey and once we’ve defeated you, it’s on to the next. Our "tool" is nothing more than a tool that’s used by our ego and once women realize that we’re driven by what’s between our ears and not what between our legs, they wont have to ask, “I don’t know why he's acting like this?” To dismiss our reckless actions as just, "He's just thinking with his other head," is really letting us off the hook. Once you've set a defined answer to a question, there is no room for discussion. But when you realize that we think with our ego, you can start to find out why he's defining his manhood by quantity, instead by how well he can treat one woman.
So there you have it, men are nothing more than ego-driven cavemen who need to be beaten over the head with their own clubs. By no means do I think that this will change your perception of us, but hopefully the next time a man gets out of line, you’ll think he’s thinking with the head with the brain in it and not the one in his pants.
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